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List:       kde-artists
Subject:    Re: [kde-artists] Bug 163311
From:       Oswald Buddenhagen <ossi () kde ! org>
Date:       2008-06-29 7:28:32
Message-ID: 20080629072832.GB4097 () ugly ! local
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On Sat, Jun 28, 2008 at 05:34:59PM -0700, James Richard Tyrer wrote:
> This is something that you must learn as an engineer that criticism of
> your work is not personal criticism.  Part of this is being sure that
> you criticize the work and not the person.
>
"what a wonderful world this would be" ...

> Unfortunately, I have run into many people that do not make this very
> important distinction.  So, if you tell them what you think needs
> improving in their work, they take it as a personal insult.  We are
> never going to get anywhere with that mindset.
> 
the point that you are missing is that most (*) people require a
ridiculously bloated, sophisticated communication protocol that works
around their ego to be able to communicate efficiently. if you don't use
it, they *will* get upset. it isn't their fault - they simply *can't* do
differently, so insisting on straight-forward communication is the
mindset that doesn't get you anywhere. i agree totally that this is a
most unfortunate effect of evolution, but it is simply the reality.

(*) most being defined as "practically all". this fraction is somewhat
smaller in only very few self-selected groups - artists@ most probably
not being one of them.

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