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Nachshon Draiman, Stress Management: 7 Universal Laws for Managing Change


1. The Law of Stagnation
This is also known as first order change.  First order change is a type of change \
where there really is no change. How's that again? Pretty foggy, huh?
Allow me to clear it up for you. Authors Waltzlawick, Weakland and Fisch, in their \
book "Change: Principles of Problem Formation and Problem Resolution" explain it this \
way: "...A person having a nightmare can do many things in their dream - run, hide, \
fight, scream, jump off a cliff, etc. - but no change from any one of these behaviors \
to another would ever terminate the nightmare." In other words, you can have lots of \
action and moving around, without any real change taking place. A good example from \
the relationship world is the belief that ending one relationship for another will \
change everything and make you happy. Not necessarily. Remember these profound words \
of wisdom, "Wherever you go, you take yourself with you." 2. The Law of \
Transformation This is also known as second order change. Again, according to the \
authors, "The one way out of a dream involves a change from dreaming to waking. \
Waking, obviously, is no longer a part of the dream, but a change to a different \
state altogether." In other words, transformation, or put more simply, real change, \
involves movement from one state to another. 3. The Law of The Clutch
This is also known as the law of conscious attention. Several years ago, the clutch \
went out on my two year old car. I asked the mechanic why this would happen so soon \
and he asked me a few questions about how I drive. It turns out I was a champion \
clutch rider. If it was possible for me to have the clutch in, it was in. What's the \
point? Well, I found myself having to pay conscious attention to something I had been \
doing, kind of unconsciously, for years - driving. There are times in our life where \
we have to pay conscious and careful attention to what we are doing and thinking in \
order to get the changes we want. 4. The Law of Others
Whenever you set out to change someone else, you are doomed to frustration and \
failure. The only  person we can change is ourselves, and that's difficult enough \
sometimes. 5. The Law of Wet Diapers
The only person who always likes change is a wet baby. Sometimes change can be the \
last thing we want. At the same time, change is an inevitable part of our lives. 6. \
The Law of Waves Like change, there are three ways to handle a wave: you can let it \
knock you down, you can survive it, or you can ride it and thrive. Only the wisest \
and most creative of people do the latter. 7. The Law of Kaleidoscopes
Remember the kaleidoscopes we played with as kids? You would look through the hole in \
the tube, turn the end of the tube and watch the colors change. Many times there \
would be a series of small shifts followed by a big shift in the picture. That's \
often how we change as well. We make a series of small shifts leading to big changes. \
So if you find yourself frustrated by only being able to make small changes, \
remember, big changes can be just one more small shift away. Visit  for tips and \
tools for creating and growing a great relationship. You can also subscribe to our \
f*r*e*e 10 day e-program on how to enrich your relationship today, from relationship \
coach and expert Jeff Herring.  
   

       
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Nachshon Draiman, Stress Management: 7 Universal Laws for Managing \
Change<br><br><br><div><b>1. The Law of Stagnation</b></div><div>This is also known \
as first order change.  First order change is a type of change where there really is \
no change.</div><div>How's that again? Pretty foggy, huh?</div><div>Allow me to clear \
it up for you. Authors Waltzlawick, Weakland and Fisch, in their book "Change: \
Principles of Problem Formation and Problem Resolution" explain it this \
way:</div><div>"...A person having a nightmare can do many things in their dream - \
run, hide, fight, scream, jump off a cliff, etc. - but no change from any one of \
these behaviors to another would ever terminate the nightmare."</div><div>In other \
words, you can have lots of action and moving around, without any real change taking \
place.</div><div>A good example from the relationship world is the belief that ending \
one relationship for another will change everything and make you happy. Not \
necessarily. Remember  these profound words of wisdom, "Wherever you go, you take \
yourself with you."</div><div><b>2. The Law of Transformation</b></div><div>This is \
also known as second order change. Again, according to the authors,</div><div>"The \
one way out of a dream involves a change from dreaming to waking. Waking, obviously, \
is no longer a part of the dream, but a change to a different state \
altogether."</div><div>In other words, transformation, or put more simply, real \
change, involves movement from one state to another.</div><div><b>3. The Law of The \
Clutch</b></div><div>This is also known as the law of conscious attention. Several \
years ago, the clutch went out on my two year old car. I asked the mechanic why this \
would happen so soon and he asked me a few questions about how I drive. It turns out \
I was a champion clutch rider. If it was possible for me to have the clutch in, it \
was in.</div><div>What's the point? Well, I found myself having to pay conscious \
attention to something I  had been doing, kind of unconsciously, for years - \
driving.</div><div>There are times in our life where we have to pay conscious and \
careful attention to what we are doing and thinking in order to get the changes we \
want.</div><div><b>4. The Law of Others</b></div><div>Whenever you set out to change \
someone else, you are doomed to frustration and failure. The only  person we can \
change is ourselves, and that's difficult enough sometimes.</div><div><b>5. The Law \
of Wet Diapers</b></div><div>The only person who always likes change is a wet baby. \
Sometimes change can be the last thing we want. At the same time, change is an \
inevitable part of our lives.</div><div><b>6. The Law of Waves</b></div><div>Like \
change, there are three ways to handle a wave: you can let it knock you down, you can \
survive it, or you can ride it and thrive. Only the wisest and most creative of \
people do the latter.</div><div><b>7. The Law of Kaleidoscopes</b></div><div>Remember \
the kaleidoscopes we  played with as kids? You would look through the hole in the \
tube, turn the end of the tube and watch the colors change. Many times there would be \
a series of small shifts followed by a big shift in the picture.</div><div>That's \
often how we change as well. We make a series of small shifts leading to big \
changes.</div><div>So if you find yourself frustrated by only being able to make \
small changes, remember, big changes can be just one more small shift \
away.</div><div>Visit&nbsp; for tips and tools for creating and growing a great \
relationship. You can also subscribe to our f*r*e*e 10 day e-program on how to enrich \
your relationship today, from relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring.</div><div>  \
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