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From: "Elaine Mcqueen" <kreolekragol () free ! fr>
Date: 2017-07-13 17:25:17
Message-ID: 1750301754.20170713192517 () free ! fr
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Dear,
I'm writing an article and I think you can help me with some issues, please take a \
look http://ipisu.ru/progress.php?9e9f
Cheers, Elaine Mcqueen
From: uClinux development list [mailto:uClinux-dev@uclinux.org]
Sent: Thursday, July 13, 2017 12:25 PM
To: kreolekragol@free.fr
Subject: Brokeback Mountain
I come from a less conservative country than you and totally agree with you that \
teens your sister's age are definitely full of hormones. Any unmonitored form of \
communication will eventually turn into a way to be inappropriate with those of \
the opposite sex because their design by nature is to have sex.
So the issue isnt really the phone, it's why she keeps doing things that she \
knows are explicitly wrong. Again i think this rebellion, especially when growing \
up in a conservative place, is natural. All of the messages being sent by her brain \
are telling her thats she's attracted to boys but all the messages she's getting \
from her society tell her that only bad girls do the things she wants to do. \
She cries when you confront her because she's embarassed and doesnt want you to \
think less of her and probably has no idea how to talk about things. Ive been \
there!!
Without a good mix of communication and discipline, she will just continue to feel \
she's a bad girl and do the things she knows are wrong. Hopefully you can avoid this \
by helping her talk to someone who wont judge her, understanding that in \
conservative patriarchal countries, her dad and male relatives are probably not \
the best choices regardless of how nice they are. Perhaps a friend of the family, \
older female cousin, or an aunt can do it.
She has to learn that her feelings of wanting to do these things with boys are \
natural and that its ok to have those thoughts. But she also has to learn from this \
trusted person that there are good reasons why she can't focus on those things at \
this age of her life. Texting and sending dirty pictures will make the boy want \
these things in real life and might even get her a reputation that can cause her \
harm if people find out. Her main focus has to be school so she can continue the \
life that she wants to lead and not be stuck with fewer choices if she has to get \
married early. If she gets pregnant early in life, in your country there may be \
many more repurcussions that she doesnt want.
She needs someone to talk to so she can talk about her feelings and situation. Who \
is the boy? When does she see him? Has she kissed him? Does she understand how to \
respect herself and teach boys to respect her back? Does she know how to be liked \
without giving all of herself? These are things that would best be discussed with an \
older female whom she trusts and who you and your parents trust to help her \
figure things out,
Finally if she cant control herself, the phone has to go. There has to be follow \
through - you cant give a 16 year old girl the message that she cant text or talk \
to boys but here's a phone and i expect you to magically behave perfectly now. \
Privledges can be earned but if shes handed things with minimal effort she will \
just get better at hiding things from you.
Hope this helps! Good luck!
Sent from Mail for Windows 10
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class="MsoNormal"><p class=MsoNormal><span lang=EN-US>Dear, <o:p></o:p></span></p><p \
class=MsoNormal><span lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><span \
lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><span lang=EN-US>I'm \
writing an article and I think you can help me with some issues, please take a look \
<a href="http://ipisu.ru/progress.php?9e9f">read more</a><o:p></o:p></span></p><p \
class=MsoNormal><span lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><span \
lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=MsoNormal><span lang=EN-US>Cheers, \
Elaine Mcqueen<o:p></o:p></span></p></p><p \
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#E1E1E1 1.0pt;padding:3.0pt 0cm 0cm 0cm"><p class="MsoNormal"><b><span \
style="mso-fareast-language:EN">From:</span></b><span \
style="mso-fareast-language:EN"> uClinux development list \
[mailto:uClinux-dev@uclinux.org] <br><b>Sent:</b> Thursday, July 13, 2017 12:25 \
PM<br><b>To:</b> kreolekragol@free.fr<br><b>Subject:</b> Brokeback \
Mountain<o:p></o:p></span></p></div></div><p \
class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><p class=msonormal1><span \
lang=EN-US>I come from a less conservative country than you and totally agree with \
you that teens your sister's age are definitely full of hormones. Any unmonitored \
form of communication will eventually turn into a way to be inappropriate with \
those of the opposite sex because their design by nature is to have sex. \
<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span \
lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span lang=EN-US>So the \
issue isnt really the phone, it's why she keeps doing things that she knows are \
explicitly wrong. Again i think this rebellion, especially when growing up in a \
conservative place, is natural. All of the messages being sent by her brain are \
telling her thats she's attracted to boys but all the messages she's getting from \
her society tell her that only bad girls do the things she wants to do. She \
cries when you confront her because she's embarassed and doesnt want you to think \
less of her and probably has no idea how to talk about things. Ive been \
there!!<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span \
lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span lang=EN-US>Without a \
good mix of communication and discipline, she will just continue to feel she's a \
bad girl and do the things she knows are wrong. Hopefully you can avoid this by \
helping her talk to someone who wont judge her, understanding that in \
conservative patriarchal countries, her dad and male relatives are probably not \
the best choices regardless of how nice they are. Perhaps a friend of the family, \
older female cousin, or an aunt can do it. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p \
class=msonormal1><span lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p \
class=msonormal1><span lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p \
class=msonormal1><span lang=EN-US>She has to learn that her feelings of wanting to \
do these things with boys are natural and that its ok to have those thoughts. But \
she also has to learn from this trusted person that there are good reasons why she \
can't focus on those things at this age of her life. Texting and sending dirty \
pictures will make the boy want these things in real life and might even get her a \
reputation that can cause her harm if people find out. Her main focus has to be \
school so she can continue the life that she wants to lead and not be stuck with \
fewer choices if she has to get married early. If she gets pregnant early in \
life, in your country there may be many more repurcussions that she doesnt want. \
<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span \
lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span lang=EN-US>She needs \
someone to talk to so she can talk about her feelings and situation. Who is the \
boy? When does she see him? Has she kissed him? Does she understand how to respect \
herself and teach boys to respect her back? Does she know how to be liked without \
giving all of herself? These are things that would best be discussed with an older \
female whom she trusts and who you and your parents trust to help her figure \
things out, <o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span \
lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span lang=EN-US>Finally \
if she cant control herself, the phone has to go. There has to be follow through \
- you cant give a 16 year old girl the message that she cant text or talk to boys \
but here's a phone and i expect you to magically behave perfectly now. Privledges \
can be earned but if shes handed things with minimal effort she will just get \
better at hiding things from you.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span \
lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span \
lang=EN-US><o:p> </o:p></span></p><p class=msonormal1><span lang=EN-US>Hope this \
helps! Good luck!<o:p></o:p></span></p><o:p></o:p></p><p \
class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal">Sent from Mail for \
Windows 10</p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p></div></body></html>
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